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(from Reader's Digest)
To forgive may be divine, but no one ever said it was easy. When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge. But forgiveness is possible -- and it can be surprisingly beneficial to your physical and mental health

Calm yourself. To defuse your anger, try a simple stress-management technique. Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love.

Don't wait for an apology. Many times the person who hurt you has no intention of apologizing, they may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting an awfully long time. Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who upset you or condoning of his or her action.

Take the control away from your offender. Mentally replaying your hurt gives power to the person who caused you pain. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you.

Try to see things from the other person's perspective. If you empathize with that person, you may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear -- even love.

Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite and better sleep patterns.

Don't forget to forgive yourself. For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge but it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don't do it.

Never smile if you don't mean it. But smile to mean it.

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It brings us down.

Before You React to Your Anger:
(from Anger Management for Dummies)

When you find yourself on the verge of losing your cool, ask yourself: Is this worth raising my blood pressure, wearing out my cardiovascular system, and eventually causing a heart attack?

Rate the intensity of your anger on a 10-point scale: 1-3 means you’re irritated, 4-6 means you’re mad, and 7-10 means you’re in a rage.

Try to delay reacting. Stop and take a slow, deep breath in through the nose. Hold it for a count of one. Then exhale in an exaggerated way though your mouth. Repeat until you can feel it slowing some of the effects of all that adrenaline pumping through you: increased heart rate, blood pressure, muscle tension, and desire to hit something.

Ask yourself: Who am I really angry at? And is the intensity of my anger consistent with why I’m ticked off?

Learn to let go of the little things in life. Then challenge yourself to let go of the big things. It takes time.

Give yourself three options and consider the consequences of each, such as:
Let it go
Respond with a vengeance
Walk away for now but return later to discuss

Go ahead and respond. If you’ve really taken the time to weigh the consequences, most likely you’ll respond in a way that benefits you more than it hurts you.

Leave out the four-letter words. They’re incendiary and only add gasoline to the fire.

Remember the people who care for you. You probably do not want them to get angry beacuse you are angry.

Music releases stress.

I ♥ music.

So, will you do yourself two favours?

Forgive and also control your anger

=] smile for yourself!

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